Today we crack into a novel paradigm shift that I’ve discovered, which has helped my sanity and workflow when I further my lifestyle.
It’s really about the setting of goals as high as you want and listening to your inner compass that steers you to where you want to go once you’ve set them.
When we work all day, and take massive action towards what we want achieved, we can sometimes be hard on ourselves, always looking at our day and evaluating how successful it was, or if we could have done more. This type of thinking is often less productive than it is constructive. This behavior is helpful to a certain point, but then drops off rapidly afterwards.
It’s great to critique and improve, but it’s harmful to bash ourselves for not doing enough.
See the difference?
Set Goals and Relinquish Some Form of Control
We should use our full, entire energy on building up that which we want to increase. We should understand that most goals are general markers for where we want to be and they’re not all definite. The timeline can never be perfectly predicted because there are often so many setbacks and different things that are not foreseeable.
We have the potential to do what we need to in order to reach our goals in those timelines, but sometimes they are simply too big for the estimation. We’re too inexperienced, or that timeline was simply too big of a jump.
These are, of course, simply excuses for why you did not achieve them, but oftentimes when you look back, you will find out that you were awfully ambitious when you originally set those goals, and there was a slim chance that they could have materialized in that time frame.
That said; nothing is impossible.
“Extending Goal Posts” As a Mentor of Mine Used to Say…
My goals are so big that I often have to actually “extend the goal post” and give myself another 6 to 18 months or more to work on grasping it. So initially this following paradigm that I will introduce was hard for me to adopt, but I’m seeing positive results from it.
If you’re setting a goal to reach a billion dollars in sales in 10 years, when you reach 700 million, will you be disappointed? Not likely.
But if you set a goal for only $50 million in sales, when you know you’re capable of more, and you actually achieve it, I guarantee you will be far more disappointed that you achieved your smaller goal when you know your full capabilities.
This is what I mean by extending the goal post. If the 10-year mark comes around and you still haven’t hit it, you will have to extend the goal post. On the upside, you’re still up 700 million dollars in your business, and you’re not likely to be disappointed. If you did get around $50-60 million in the same time frame, you would always know you were capable of more.
This thought has been building and expanding since I initially picked up the first root thought from a great book on my list called Psychocybernetics. The book is a great intro about how to control yourself, steer your subconscious mind, focus on positivity and cultivate the headspace environment that you want to live in.
I came across a quote by 19th century philosopher William James that I must’ve read 25+ times.
“What? Did he just suggest I should fully focus on work and not worry about what I want the work to achieve?!”
You bet, soldier.
The way it was framed in the book was fantastic. Maltz lays out the foundation of the necessary role of our subconscious minds that help us get from point A to point B. He suggests that the subconscious mind is just as necessary for achieving goals as it is for picking up a cigarette.
This was a MASSIVE paradigm shift for me, and keeps sinking in to deeper levels.
It’s used in every step of the way to “fill in the gaps”. You’re using your conscious mind to set the target that is a cigarette that you want to pick up. Your subconscious mind guides and fills in all the little steps because will is simply not enough.
Will alone does not let you force your way to the cigarette if you don’t already have it as a target.
Why This Target-Setting Works For Real Life Goals
When we have a goal, we set the target. When we set the target, and repeat it consistently, we are ensuring that we will reach it. All the willpower in the world is useless if we cannot know where to apply it. Half of our battle is fought by simply deciding on a destination. This is why people that set goals, usually reach them should they never give up.
Jesus said “give no thought for the morrow.”
St. Paul said to “be careful in nothing.”
William James seconds this type of thinking by stating that it is not your responsibility to figure out how or when it will get accomplished. Your responsibility is setting the destination, doing everything you can to ensure timely progress, and letting the rest unfold naturally. After all, is this not what happens when we pick items up off tables, tie our shoes, or drive to the same destination daily?
The strength in this, as James continues, lies with the decision to let loose your practical machinery so your underlying consciousness can do the real work it was meant to. Sometimes we over-correct or try to control every facet of an achievement, when we should let it breathe a bit, and build even when we’re not giving it focused attention.
The suggestion I’m posing is to simply set a goal, and relax your tendency to force it to happen. It will happen exactly when it is supposed to. When it is supposed to means when you’re ready, when there’s adequate opportunity, and when it can be most beneficial for all involved. When you have done enough and deserve your goal is when you will get it.
Honestly, sometimes we do not know when that perfect time is until viewing it in hindsight.
This is why it is so vitally important to take action on any insight you receive. The insight does not simply appear, but is stemming from a previous goal or desire that you verbalized, if even only mentally.
Desire is the proof that you have what you need to achieve it.
If you can see it clearly in your mind, you’ll be able to hold it in your hand with some patience, consistency, and lots of action. Our natural tendency is either to rush or to push on all of our projects as fast as they can go every day. As I said, this is productive up until the point it sends your progress backwards.
The Most Important Takeaway of Releasing Control
If we had two new points to sum up, they would be:
a) Release some control of your conscious mind that always wants to fix everything now
b) Trust your subconscious (inner GPS) that is already taking you to your goals… right now
And lastly, the most important process to remember to actually release control, specifically when solving problems:
Desire it strongly. Imagine the goal vividly. Gather all relevant information. Set the target. Then let go.
This will preserve your sanity, productivity and self-image. Of course you will continue to work towards it every day. However, you want these three to be intact so you can continue to produce great work and value. I’m definitely not suggesting you should not work towards your goals.
You should do everything you can each day to reach them, but it is not efficient to kill yourself over achieving them. This is paramount to happiness because we will spend most of our waking lives developing our work and life purpose.
Our lives are about progression, action, success, experiences, relationships, helping others grow, and attain new freedom levels. If we’re not in it for these reasons, what are we living for?
Learn this different paradigm tweak in order to set goals that can be furthered 24/7, solve problems that don’t need your conscious thought, and be more balanced in your day-to-day work progress.
A Note on Slacking Or Justifying Failure
This mindset and paradigm is only for the reality of extreme action-takers. People who aren’t willing to give 100% everyday will likely fall by the wayside because they simply are not taking enough action.
If you’re slacking and setting goals, always extending goal posts but never actually achieving anything you set, it is time to re-examine. If you wonder if you’re pushing yourself to the maximum until the day is over, only one person in the world knows whether you’re doing that: you.
We do not justify failure. We do not accept quitting. Ever…
This goalpost extension is not a simple excuse to get off the hook for not doing enough. You’ll want to always be moving forward on something, and this message is for people who will need to sometimes take a pause from pushing to the maximum every hour of every day.
Don’t respect nature and the seasons, and Mother Nature will have the last chuckle.
A quick look at biology, chemistry or ecology will tell you nature operates in seasons. Disobey this and go against millions of years of successful evolution at your own risk.
People actually die from overworking. The Japanese call this Karōshi.
In America, we tend to celebrate and uplift Karōshi, but it is grinding is only effective up until a certain point. That’s all I will say about that.
You can definitely counteract this to a large extent by simply doing exactly what you want, what you were built for, and getting positively and healthily addicted to the right cause.