What is missing from the quick fat loss schemes, the get-rich quick schemes and the short bios of millionaire’s lives?
Ah, let’s see…
The risk, the struggle, the work, the setbacks, the disappointments, the small victories, the persistence, the time frame and the loneliness, and finally, the success.
Just to name a few, these factors are present in most people’s rise to real achievement.
There’s a strong media bias that is created when you learn about the people who’ve gotten rich extremely young, or changed their entire life around in a seemingly short period of time.
We live in a world that focuses on results, outcomes and events.
What creates this world we experience is the focus, the process, and the underlying routines. But no one talks about those.
If you learn a bit about Bill Gates and his rise to billions, he started out for about 10 years in his 20s not taking one day off. He lived in the computer room at college, figured out how to game the computer hour-counting system so he could stay there for as long as he liked.
He snuck out of his house nightly and went to code into the deep hours of the night…
If you learn about Kobe Bryant and his progress to massive success in basketball, you’ll see in his daily routines that he’s up at four o’clock shooting hoops.
He sets a target to drain a certain amount of baskets before he allows himself to move on to rigorous weight training. He doesn’t set goals for attempts, he sets the goal based on completed baskets, so he gets accurate progress.
It’s taken him more than a decade to reach his level of sports achievements.
Dwayne ‘The Rock” Johnson is up at four also, doing cardio for hours before he even gets to intense weight training.
By 7 a.m. he’s put in more hours of physical training than most people do in a week. He’s built one of the largest and most sculpted physiques of our time, and that’s no accident.
All types of other successful men and women have put in these hours by themselves.
These hours are dark and often lonely, with nothing but your main goal and your work in front of you.
Like Felix Dennis said:
“Many paths can lead to riches, few in sunlight most in ditches.”
The profound meaning of this is that these men and women have spent the hours beating on their crafts behind closed doors. No one was watching them, pushing them or making them do what they needed to succeed.
They found the reason for the desire within and knew what they had to do to get started. They didn’t delay and they did not speculate about how long it was going to take.
Everyone loves to set goals, and many set them with a timeline. This is overall helpful, but since no one can predict the future, there may be frustrations if too much pressure is put upon the time of the result.
Set timely goals, but be willing to extend the goal post if you’ve come up short, and don’t ever be hard on yourself about it.
Expectation of the Future
With results and processes, there can be a massive miscommunication between the process and the desired results. We often see things played out in our head, just how we would like and we don’t take into account all the possible setbacks.
Well, this conveniently sets us up for disappointment and frustration. Instead, a more powerful technique is when we are laser-focused on what we want, and work towards it daily, we can and will get where we’re going in the right time frame.
It may not be our ideal timeframe, but we will get there when we are supposed to.
“To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people.” – Charlie Munger
At times, you must extend the goalpost when you don’t smash through it. Other times, you will have to shorten the goalposts and set new ones when you’re scaling quickly.
One of the most important factors of success is adaptation.
If you can learn to adapt, you can learn to use setbacks to your advantage and turn things that people hurl at you into something helpful.
“Every negative is a positive. The bad things that happen to me, I somehow make them good. That means you can’t do anything to hurt me.” – 50 Cent
With this attitude, you can’t lose. In a head-to-head battle of words and character, or a collision of life events, or whatever it may be. If you’re always looking for the way to make something hard positive for your life, you will make it happen. An aggressive, positive approach to problems is the way to solve them.
Thomas Carlyle took this approach as well. Finally, after moping and whining about after a setback, he questioned himself about the worst that could happen, and came up with the only answer: death.
As for any other struggle, he was quoted saying “Let it come then; I will meet it and defy it!”
When there’s a will, finding a way is inevitable and secondary.
What Nobody Tells You When Decide to Strike Out On Your Own
Whenever you start something new that you have no experience in, you’ll inevitably need to learn a massive amount. You can always find support groups, masterminds and networks that are on the same mission as you, but when you’re going against the crowd, there is no blueprint, no chosen path.
It’s up to you to forge the way and do exactly what you want. This is great for your freedom and decisions, but sometimes it can be very lonely and seem almost too hard to overcome. Almost.
You will be challenged the most to give up right before you succeed.
This is normal pushback from mediocre people, trying to dampen the shining light of a budding genius.
Nevertheless, pay no mind and push beyond what you’re used to hearing. Don’t listen to what is naturally accepted by many average minds. You are not average, and you have no desire to settle for a regular old life.
Instead, embrace the curious, strange, and exciting unknown. It can be scary and fun at the same time, because the same parts of the brain and nervous system are utilized for fear and for excitement.
Instead of being scared of something new, embrace the excitement and turn it into your advantage for a positive situation.
You’ll be glad you did. If you don’t, you will never know what could have happened.